Dear Prudence

Friendships can be mind blowing sometimes. You think you know someone ....and then BAM! It's like they yanked the rug right out from under you causing you to fall flat on your face, leaving you to wonder...what the hell just happened? I had what I thought to be a very loyal friendship for a little more than 11 years. I could say anything to her and she supported me 110% with whatever situation. That's what friends do. If I needed a nudge to stop my procrastinating, she was there to push me. If I needed a shoulder to cry on, she wouldn't hesitate to stop by to to give me her shoulder. She was there to ease my panic when I forgot to give my daughter her meds. You get the picture. She was a true friend. Or so I thought.

And then...it just took one day. One hour. In just one minute that whole relationship changed. BAM.....Just like that. Long story short. We got into a spat, of sorts. It about knocked me off my chair when she tried to turn a circle of our friends against me. No. Really. It literally blew me away, I'm telling you. I fell off my chair when I read that email. It took my breath away. Unable to breathe I gasped for air. I picked myself up off the floor, crawled back unto my chair, and sat myself back at the desk. Well. Okay, I didn't really do that. But it did take me aback....big time. Seriously, I never experienced that from any friend. Not even an acquaintence. I never experienced something like that, period. Via an email forum, she told our friends she was leaving because of me. It would be because of me that she could no longer be with us. Problem with that was...she came back. No, problem isn't the right word. Thing is, since she did come back within two days, you have to wonder what her real intentions were. In actuality, what she did was extremely juvenile, coming from an adult woman. That was a major high school performance. Another real kick in the @&& was another one who didn't see anything wrong with her actions.

Friendships certainly can be mind blowing. Course you can say that it depends on the kind of people that make up a friendship too. There are the loyal ones. There are friends that when asked for forgiveness...will forgive and forget without a second thought. Friends that are devoted to friendship. Although I am blessed to have friends for over 40 years. That is really something to cherish.

This one I knew for about 11 years. People who can cut me off without benevolence, maybe shouldn't be worth my time. You just can't treat another human being with malice. Either way I gotta say, that one was a real stab in the back. That hurt. It still does. I guess that's because I never in all my days met anyone that could do something like that and not apologize or feel the tiniest bit of guilt.

So what am I doing writing all this stuff on my blog? Because it's a safe place to be.